Ladies Guild

Tis the season for Ladies Guild to start back up again at church.   We take a couple of months off during the summer.  I decided to join Ladies Guild last year and am joined by a bunch of wonderful ladies and also two very special friends:

1) Megan (the pastor's wife) is in between Kara and I in age and has two little girls around Keegan's age and one little boy on the way :-)  She's such a sweetheart and a lot of fun to be around.  I am so blessed we've become friends over the last year and a half (wow time flies!).

2) And then there is Tiffany.  No words to describe Tiffany justly other than my partner in crime in this crazy adult/motherhood world we live in.  I heart her!   Her daughter Avery is 15 days older than Keegan.  We've been friends since high school and we were in Key Club together and played soccer together.  We've become super close these last few years though.  I feel like she is my mommyhood soulmate!  Our friendship is just effortless and I feel like we really get each other. Unfortunately our husbands both have odd work schedules but fortunately that means the two of us and the kiddos get to do a lot of fun things together!  Keegan loves his Avery too! (and they were baptised together! and if you ask us they are betrothed lol) We are so similar in many ways but also different in some ways so it just works. We've been on many adventures together and are also quite content to just sit at Starbucks and talk for hours.  She also introduced us to the Family Music Time music class - which starts back up on Saturday (super excited!).  You are sure to hear a lot more of Tiffany and Avery as I blog more and more.  I love this wacky roller coaster of life with Tiffany and her family right alongside us!

Disclaimer:  Megan is super AWESOME too and means so much and so do my many other super close friends - I can't think of anyone else who is as blessed as me in the friend department.  I work with one of my best friends (we call each other our other better halves!) and another best friend is Keegan's Godmother, I want to move near my best friend forever and ever in high school (friends since 1st grade) Alyssa in Orlando, I have my best friend practically sister Alissa nearby.... and on and on and on... AND my sister Kara is truly a best friend.  Whew.... see what I mean - blessed!

But I digress... back to Ladies Guild...

Our first meeting was tonight.  I truly do enjoy it.  Megan, Tiffany (I hope - she had to miss tonight), Peggy (my other other half's awesome mom!), and I will spearhead the church Christmas party again this year.  Megan and I will also be "hosting" next month which means providing food and beverage for the Ladies Guild and Men's Club members.  I plan to make beer bread, spinach herb dip, and Nana's Apple Cake (all Tastefully Simple).

We'll make cakes for the spaghetti dinner the Men's Club will have in October.  There will also be Trunk or Treat on Halloween (with a cupcake walk - another excuse for baking).  It's amazing how busy we keep.  I enjoy most if not all of it though.  I am not complaining that I will miss the yard sale though since that's the day of Keegan's birthday party.  I will donate stuff and make baked goods for the bake sale.

The tough part is whether I want to become an officer or not.  I think our current board is amazing and would prefer if they all stayed in office (Especially the president - she's triple amazing!).  But, alas, the vice president is moving soon.  So there's a vacancy no matter what.  The president said she thought it would be great if one of the younger ladies ran for office (for any position but I want the remaining 3 to stay!).  Well, there are only three of us younger ladies that are in the Ladies Guild.  I am not sure if Megan or Tiffany want to hold an office.  They'd be great.  If not, I am going to pray real hard if I want another commitment.  I feel like it is a possibility but I need to think about it.  I also need to look in to and think about being more active on our church's behalf in the Lutheran Women's Missionary League.  I feel like I need at least one of my fellow partners in crime to be active with me for that though.

So these are decisions I have to pray about.  God is good and he does good things in and through our church.  I just wish I knew exactly the best vocation for myself in it all.

PS - I always do the sign of the cross after praying and often times at the start too.  Not many of my fellow churchmates do.  Must totally be something left over from my days as a young Catholic.  It's a habit I don't see ending anytime soon though (And what a powerful statement when praying to oneself out in public!). Just an observation....

PPS - My original paragraph about Tiffany feels like it was much longer but when I posted the blog the symbol I had for "heart" had the whole paragraph screwed up.... sigh.....

Parenting - No One "Magic Formula"

I know there is no one "magic formula" for parenting.  Each family, each child, each parent, each neighborhood, each environment.... so many factors go in to each Family and each Familial Relationship and how it "works."  One thing is clear - the best for one situation may not be the best for another.

I doubt myself sometimes and I obsess over if what I am doing is the best thing(s) to do. I make more than my share of mistakes (and did I mention Keegan is not quite yet two?).

I just felt the need to put this out there.  As I post about the stress of a perfect birthday party or the best schooling for my son or how awesome I think he is (most of the time) I am in no way trying to set this standard I think each family should live by, but I also don't think it is very fair to be judged for the journey in parenting I am partaking in.

Guess what:
- My kid's a vegetarian like his momma (and his Aunt Kiki too).
- I enroll him in a weekly music class that, although an additional expense, provides a bonding time for me and my son and a fun learning experience for him.
- I work full time and my kid is in daycare from 9-6 five days a week.
- I don't feel bad about that.
- I also don't feel bad that he's usually one of the last to get picked up.
- I do feel bad that there are not even more hours in a day that I can spend with him though.
- I'd consider homeschooling or some other alternative schooling, if we could swing me being a stay-at-home-mom.
- I already have two public schools picked out that I think would be good for Keegan too.
- I am a licensed attorney.
- I wish I was a housewife.
- I am in debt up to my ears becoming said attorney which makes goal of being said housewife hardly obtainable.
- I have wanted more kids since the second Keegan was born.
- I plan on having (hopefully) two more kids.
- I would love to adopt children as well one day.
- I had a natural, drug-free, delivery and hope to be able to do the same again.
- I spoil my kid.
- I also have no problem discipling my kid.
- I started potty training Keegan around 18 months.
- I can't get him to sit on the potty at all right now.
- I breastfed Keegan until he was 10 1/2 months (9 1/2 months without any formula)
- I hope to breastfeed my future children longer.
- I made my own baby food most of the time.
- I let my kid eat cake.
- I like to plan extravagant kids parties.
- I do it as much (if not moreso) for me as for them.
- I don't like Keegan watching too much tv.
- I let Keegan watch hours and hours of tv yesterday so I could clean.

... and on and on and on.

A lot of what I just posted is "controversial".  Oh well.  Funny how more people comment on my Facebook status if it's a post about the trials of parenthood than about the joys.

I don't think people need to do what I do or not do what we don't do.  Figure out what works for your family.  But don't make other people feel bad about what they do.  And I don't mean by boasting about what you or your kid does.  I mean come on!  If someone's kid does something they are proud of, we should celebrate with them, not be annoyed by it.

So hopefully as I post about the awesome things Keegan does, people will celebrate with us, and when I post about his naughtiness, people will laugh with us, and when I post about the tough times, people will pray with us.

I know I am going to be trying to do those very same things for others.

Party Planning: Take Two

Starting to feel really good about the party planning so far!  We have all but decided to have a smaller party at Family Music Time and then a family dinner either later that day or a different night that week.

I love love love to host but would want to host the dinner at my house (which now I will do because it will not be 40-60 people) and then we can have a blast with (up to 12) kids and their parents at the Music Studio the Saturday before Keegan's birthday.  I just hope the availability is there!

Also thinking that because it would only be 12 kids I can do nicer party favors.  I'm tossing around the idea of making Mickey (and maybe Minnie for the girls) stockings to hold their favors and then a Mickey ornament to go inside.  I might even be able to get Mickey Christmas books at the dollar store or Target dollar section to go in it!  If not books, I am sure I can get a couple other little Mickey goodies.  This is so exciting to me!

And of course there will be food at the music class too.  I'm thinking of keeping it somewhat simple with just crackers, Mickey shaped cheese (you can buy pre-cut like Mickey from Walmart!), possibly fruit and/or veggie trays, and then desserts - fun Mickey themed desserts.

I'm starting to get in my party planning mode again!

Party Planning

I'm not sure why, but planning Keegan's 2nd birthday party is really stressing me out!

I think I would love to have it at my house but my dogs and the number of people I would invite have me a bit stressed out.  They are good dogs, but I would want them separated and if I had the party at our house I would want to use the backyard too (so not sure where I would put the dogs).

I could also have it at a park such as Lakes Regional Park but I have to book a pavilion ASAP if I do that.

Another idea is to have a party at Keegan's music class center - Family Music Time.  This would force me to narrow down the invite list (only 12 kids approx ages 1-6 should be there with their parents) and then I would do a dinner at my house for family and probably a few close friends.

I have a problem with committing to what to do. Once I commit it's like I go nuts.  I do think I will do Mickey Theme for sure though.  I'd love to do Toy Story next year as I think that would be a fun age for all the Toy Story goodness (and, even though he loves Buzz and Woody, he still hasn't seen the movies).  So many fun party themes for the future: Toy Story, dinosaurs, robots, Legos, Cars, trains and on and on and on....

Every time I lean towards an option, I start to double-guess and lean towards another option.

To reminisce - here is Keegan with Papa (as he now calls my dad) on his first birthday:

School

So I know it is really weird, but I have started obsessing over Keegan's schooling.  Those who know me, know I obsess.  A lot. Sometimes over trivial things.  A lot of times of far off things.

But alas, I am obsessing over my one year old's education as in four years from now.  I love his preschool but man I am going nuts over when he actually starts elementary school.

I heard of this (Christian based) private school model called University-Model School that I absolutely think is the coolest thing.  It's semi-homeschool.  They aren't really considered homeschooled, but your kids only go to school two days a week and you are their "coach" the remaining days to bridge the gap.  Hard to explain so here is an article on it:

http://www.home-school.com/Articles/university-model-schools.php

And here is the National Association of University-Model Schools webpage:

http://www.naums.net/

Problem is - the only one in Florida is in Largo/Pinellas Park area.  Bummer.  A lot can happen in 4 years though, right?

Then there is the Lee County Virtual School.  I have an awesome friend whose daughter is only 2 weeks older than Keegan and she was interested in homeschooling so we were talking about the option of having our kids go to the Virtual School and we can alternate teacher/coaching days this way we could work part-time if we wanted to.  (I'd like to think I'd have the option of working part time in 4 years but I know that's not a definite too).

Here's the "schools" website: http://lvip.leeschools.net/

And (as of right now) they use the Calvert Curriculum so I want to look in to that more: http://www.calvertschool.org/

I do like the idea of Keegan being in a regular classroom setting for social purposes down the road too and I know it's not a bad thing if he goes to public school - heck, his AWESOME Aunt Kiki teaches at a school he could go to and they just built a technology/science elementary school nearby.

Also another blogger I came across via pinterest has an awesome site where she has put together massive packets for "Mommy School" for toddlers.  I think that's great and plan on trying to do stuff with Keegan too.  I want to instill a love of learning in him.  His father and I like it so I think there's a fair shot he will too.

Mommy School: http://www.oopseydaisyblog.com/mommy-school

So I am not sure what is weirder - that I am obsessing over his schooling already or that I am liking it???

Keegan's Cardboard Car

Inspired by a post on Pinterest (here: http://pinterest.com/pin/17732992252271625/) I decided to make Keegan a cardboard car to play in. He's still at that age where playing in boxes is fun. But it's not that pretty and I wanted a project. So I used a heavy duty fruit cardboard box, painted it with acrylic paint (which is where I was originally going to stop), and then went a little overboard with embellishments. I added a mini bicycle license plate, mailbox reflectors as brake lights, and the budget buster of tap lights as the headlights. I didn't shop around for the tap lights so I paid more than I planned at $6.50 for the two. Originally I was going to do either clear/white or yellow reflectors but I could only find red that were big enough. I also purchased little sticky circle mirrors that are meant to be put on your side view mirrors to use as sideview mirrors but I haven't figured out the best way to add them on. The mirrors, reflectors, and license plate were all fairly inexpensive.

Keegan likes it :-)

 

How do they do it?

How do they do it? You know "they" - the superhero women who work full-time, have the most well behaved kids, and an immaculate house (sans paid housekeeper... although that would be nice!). I like my job and I am good at it but my house is always dirty and I feel like I don't spend enough quality time with my kid (or my hubby but part of that is our opposite work schedules). I wish I could be home more. Then I would have no excuse not to have a clean clutter-free house, dinner on the table each night, and a million finished pinterest projects. Sigh.....